So your boyfriend broke up with you and it seems to be over.  What will you do?  If you still love him you will no doubt be in anguish, and want to get him back.

But if you’re all emotional and messed up, why would he want you back?  It’s really offputting to be around someone who’s very needy and feeling bad.

You probably want to just run over to his place or pick up the phone and tell him how you feel and promise you’ll change, but at this stage he’s unlikely to want to listen.  Especially if it was your fault that you broke up and he doesn’t trust you at the moment, you will need to have great self-control, and let him have his space.

If you want to get him back you will need some knowledge of male psychology along with patience and determination.  You also must learn what to do and what to avoid doing.

Here are the 7 things you must stop yourself from doing straight after the breakup:

1. Wallow in your misery so that your ex will take you back because she feels sorry for you.  That is showing yourself to be a big ‘L’ Loser;
2. Be unusually nice to him, telling him you love him all the time.  A man can find that suffocating;
3. Tell him that you’ll be different from now on.  Why should he trust what you say?  Don’t you know actions speak louder than words.
4. Buy him stuff, like something he’s long wanted, or perhaps tickets to a game.  He could easily be embarrassed, feeling you’re trying to buy his love;
5. Make him feel guilty or use other bribery like how other people, perhaps your children or your parents, will feel if you don’t get back together;
6. Cry, whine, plead.  Men hate that. 
7. Shut him out completely, wanting him to get upset and come back to you.

These actions will make your ex-boyfriend feel more separate from you.

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